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Kindness Matters

 

 

Hello everyone. I hope all is well with you. I’ve been busy working on my latest WIP and polishing the manuscript I just finished. I ran across an article on Facebook when I was in the middle of revising. Yes. I’m trying to stay away from social media so I get more done, but some days I’m better at it than others. But I digress. Today I’d like to talk about Mob Mentality.

 

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The event that inspired this post is an article about a new release coming out. Here’s the link to the article here:  Article about the Book Review

 

This all started over a review about the story, “The Black Witch.” One reviewer didn’t like the book and she wrote about it on her blog. It offended her. She’s entitled to write about her reaction to the story, but what happened afterward is sad.

Many other bloggers and many of her followers jumped on the band wagon and criticized the book even though they hadn’t read it. This is what I mean by a mob mentality. People joining in on the criticism even though they had no idea if what this blogger said was true. So, a book that had a popular buzz going ended up tanking because of this blogger and the people who jumped on the band wagon.

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I think this is unfortunate, but I’m not here to complain about that. I wonder if mob mentality is something we can use to spread kindness. Let’s think about it. We know it exists so let’s use it for good instead of evil. What do you think? Is it possible?

I don’t know. But I’m willing to find out. Why can’t some form of kindness go viral? Why is it always something negative? I know negativity sells, but we could turn that around, too. Don’t you think?

 

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What if a bunch of us bloggers got together and wrote posts about kindness?  How it matters. The positive impact it has on our lives. Anything like that, and we used a hashtag like #kindnessmatters. I wonder if we could get it to go viral.

 

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Wouldn’t that be something? Just think if we could start a positive vibe. I wonder what the ripple effect would be?  Well, there’s only one way to find out. Is there anyone who’d be interested in getting together and doing this? I’m thinking maybe we could write a post once a week about an act of kindness we preformed or one we received. The more bloggers who get involved the bigger the ripple. What are your thoughts? Leave a comment and let me know. I’m up for it, are you?

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Be That Person

 

Hello everyone. I hope all is well with you. I watched this video this morning and thought I should share it with all of you.  It’s titled Be that Person. Now I’ve never met this woman, but I do want to share her message because it’s spot on. I’ve posted the flick below.

 

 

I’m flabbergasted that someone would waste their time to write such a nasty comment.  Don’t we have better things to do? I love the message in this video. It’s inspiration for all women of all ages, don’t you agree?

It just goes to show you  everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about. Be kind. Always.

That’s all I have for today. I just wanted to share that message as we begin the holiday season. Thanks for stopping by and reading my Post and thanks to all my wonderful followers. I love you all and appreciate your kind and encouraging words. 🙂

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Tweeters Behaving Badly

 

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Hello everyone! I hope all is well with you! I’m back with another Slice of Life post and today I want to talk about Cyber-bullying.

 

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This week i learned that two of my Twitter pals were being bullied on Twitter. (They don’t follow each other or know each other). It upset me. Why would anyone take the time to harass someone on social media? It doesn’t make sense.

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One of my friends received personal attacks, taunting her. Telling her she was fat and she should kill herself. This blows my mind and makes me angry. This is all because she doesn’t support Trump. Is this what our political process has become?

If someone voices an opinion that you don’t agree with, then ignore them. Why do people feel the need to engage in such a hateful manner? What are they trying to accomplish?

The awesome thing about social media is that you can engage with people from around the world. It’s a great tool. It’s not to be used as a way to bully people. My friend happens to be strong and was able to handle this negative crap. But what if she were emotionally fragile at the time these tweets started coming her way? What if she really did try to kill herself?

My other friend has someone who’s spreading lies about her. Who has time for this? And what is their motive? This girl is an up and coming author, she isn’t a threat in any way. The only thing she can do is ignore these tweets and report this behavior to Twitter.

In our public school system we’re trying to teach anti-bullying tactics. How are our kids supposed to learn these behaviors if they see adults behaving this way?

Now more than ever we need to be kind to each other. This type of behavior is getting way out of hand. Let’s start a ripple effect in the direction of kindness. Let’s see if we can be the change we want to see in the world.

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If you’ve ever been bullied by someone on social media, how did you handle it? I’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment!

 

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Kindness: A Slice of Life Post

Write. Share. Give.

 

Hello everyone. I hope all is well with you. I’m back today and I want to tell you I was pleasantly surprised by how well received my post on The Kindness of Strangers was. This inspired me to write another post on Kindness. I was thinking (this always scares my hubby) about when we’re trying to perform random acts of kindness and we run into unkind people. What do we do?

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For a long time, I would make excuses for bad behavior. “Oh, Sally’s having a bad day.” And I would turn the other cheek and go along my way. However, what happens when that person is continually unkind? When do we stop turning the other cheek? When does her behavior go from having a bad day to emotionally abusive? This my friends is where we have to decide how much of this unkind behavior we are willing to tolerate.  Everyone has a different tolerance level.

For me, I’ll start investing my own time into trying to figure out what the problem is. I’ll ask Sally if I’ve done something to upset her. If I don’t get any information from her, there’s nothing I can do.  I don’t have the tools to help her with her issue at this time. When this starts to happen, I know I’ve reached my limit.I stop spending a lot of time trying to figure out what I’ve done wrong because I figure, If I had done something wrong, Sally would’ve told me. At this point, I go into survival mode.

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What that means is I try to limit my time with that person. If it’s someone I work with, I’ll be cordial, but I don’t initiate conversations or go out of my way to speak with Sally. I know what you’re thinking, I’m being unkind. Well. Maybe I am. But here’s the deal.

We must also be kind to ourselves. We are just as important as any other person on the face of the earth. We do not have to tolerate bad behavior. I know this sounds very simple. You don’t like how someone is treating you, you stay away from them. It is simple, but very hard to do. Why? Because we get emotionally involved with the other person and that throws logic out the window. I know. I’ve seen it happen many times.

We have to remind ourselves in the midst of this emotional struggle to detach from this person. They are not good for us. It doesn’t mean we have to be unkind to them, but we don’t have to put up with their bad behavior either.

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So, when I speak about Kindness. I want everyone to know that each of you needs to be kind to yourself as well. You’re important and there’s a reason you’re here.

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The Kindness of Strangers

 

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Hello everyone! I hope all is well with you. I’m back today with another Slice of Life Post. Today I’m reflecting on the kindness of strangers. Have you ever been in a situation where you needed help and had to rely on someone you didn’t know? It’s happened to me twice in the last six months.

It started out as a dead battery. I went to the grocery story, bought my groceries, wheeled them out to the car, and unloaded my cart. The sun beat down as I climbed behind the wheel and turned the key. Nothing. I couldn’t believe it.

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I quickly called my husband and made arrangements for him to pick me up. While I waited (sweating in the hot sun), a nice woman offered to jump my car. We worked together and got my car started.  I thanked her, she left, and my car ran for about three seconds and then died again. My husband arrived after I baked for a little bit longer and brought me and the groceries home.

The reason I’m telling you this story is because I’m so grateful for the kindness of strangers. I appreciate all the people who’ve helped me out when I’ve been in a tight spot.

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I know we watch the news and we hear about bombings, mass shootings, and hate crimes, and each event is a horrible thing. But, there is good in the world, too. The goodness doesn’t get the attention it deserves. It isn’t as newsworthy as a hate crime or a mass shooting.

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But as I stood there in the parking lot, (because it was way too hot to sit in the car) letting people know I was having car trouble, and I wasn’t standing there waiting to steal their groceries. The majority of the people I came into contact with were very kind, especially the woman who jumped my car. She took time out on a steamy day and helped me, someone she didn’t know. This is a small event, but I wonder if all these small events were added together if it could somehow have a positive effect on the universe and cancel out all the negative ones.

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I’m grateful for that woman who was kind to me, and as I write this post, I realize I’m grateful for the kind man who changed my tire for me three months ago. I offered him money, but he declined it. He just said, help someone else when you can. Pay it forward.

I think we need more people to pay it forward, don’t you? Thanks for reading my post today. Do you have a story to share about the kindness of strangers? If you do, leave a comment. I’d love to hear from you!

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Book Review for “Wonder”

Hello everyone. I hope all is well with you. I’m back today with a review. The Slice of Lifers are participating in a March challenge that I’ve decided to not be a part of, so I’ll pick up those posts again in April.

Since March is reading month. I’m going to try and post a review of a book once a week. This is a lofty goal since I’m so busy with my writing, but I’m going to give it a shot.

I just finished the book “Wonder.” It was a very good story and I grew to love Auggie as much as his friends and family did. He was quite a strong “little dude,” and he impressed me. It’s a story about friendship and overcoming obstacles.

It’s a great book for middle schoolers to read. The message is quite clear, above all else be kind.

The cover and blurb are below.

August Pullman was born with a facial difference that, up until now, has prevented him from going to a mainstream school. Starting 5th grade at Beecher Prep, he wants nothing more than to be treated as an ordinary kid—but his new classmates can’t get past Auggie’s extraordinary face. WONDER, now a #1 New York Times bestseller and included on the Texas Bluebonnet Award master list, begins from Auggie’s point of view, but soon switches to include his classmates, his sister, her boyfriend, and others. These perspectives converge in a portrait of one community’s struggle with empathy, compassion, and acceptance.

“Wonder is the best kids’ book of the year,” said Emily Bazelon, senior editor at Slate.com and author of Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy. In a world where bullying among young people is an epidemic, this is a refreshing new narrative full of heart and hope. R.J. Palacio has called her debut novel “a meditation on kindness” —indeed, every reader will come away with a greater appreciation for the simple courage of friendship. Auggie is a hero to root for, a diamond in the rough who proves that you can’t blend in when you were born to stand out.