I saw this on Pinterest and it spoke to me. For any of my fellow INFJ’s out there who may need a boost!
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Month: June 2023
Wednesday Wisdom
I saw this on Facebook, and it spoke to me. So, I thought I’d share it with all of you, too.
Down with Drama
Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’ve had a busy week of working and planting flowers. I’ve put my writing on the back burner because it was so nice this week, I wanted to spend as much time outside as I could. So, I’ve been hiking, running, and boating. I am ready for vacation that’s for sure.
But enough about that. Today, I’d like to talk about simplifying my life. As I get older, I realize that I don’t want to spend a lot of time dealing with drama. I want a peaceful existence for the most part. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll stand and fight for my kids or things that I believe in, but the drama that seems to pop up on social media I find draining.
The other day I posted a meme on Facebook stating that “if my child can participate in active shooter drills your child can look at a T-shirt with a rainbow on it.” Those aren’t the exact words, but you get the concept of what they were trying to say. I was surprised by the responses I got from that meme. There were many second amendment enthusiasts who responded, defending the right to bear arms. This created responses from the other side that were just as enthusiastic. It started to turn nasty, so I deleted the post.
It bothers me that people will respond so negatively to people they don’t even know. We’re all entitled to our opinions.
For the record, I believe in the second amendment. The right to bear arms. But until school shootings and mass shootings stop, we need to have a stronger regulation of firearms. Because right now, it’s too easy for mentally unstable people to obtain a gun. These mentally unstable people take that gun and shoot up public places. So, until we’re able to solve the mental health crisis our nation is facing, we need to make it much harder for these people to get guns. Period end of story.
So, the question becomes, what is causing these mental health issues? Is it poor parenting? Drug addiction? Abuse in the home? Domestic violence?
The answer to the questions above is a resounding yes to all of them.
So, let’s address the problem in stages. Let’s start with some stronger gun regulation to take care of the immediate problem then we can work on the mental health crisis in our country.
Just for the record, when I say let’s work on the mental health crisis in our country, I don’t mean throwing some anti-depressants at these people and saying, “now we’re all better.” We need to make sure they get the behavioral counseling they need. We need to make sure teenagers’ home lives are healthy and thriving. We need to put an end to domestic abuse. We need to educate potential parents before they have children. The list goes on and it’s a long one. But we can do this if we pull together in our communities.
There are places women who’re experiencing domestic violence can go. There are mental health facilities available for all types of problems. But there’s a disconnect in communication between the providers and the victims in these situations.
How can we do better? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!
Happy Father’s Day!
The Documentary Victim/Suspect
Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today after a week of work and writing. We finished out the week by heading up north where we enjoyed a couple of boat rides and a craft show.
But enough about that, today I’d like to talk about a documentary available on Netflix. It is titled “Victim/Suspect.”
It’s the true story of women who’ve been sexually assaulted and report the crime to the authorities. It shows how the police lie to the victims after they share their stories. According to this documentary, the police can lie to the victims/suspects to see if they’ll recant their statements. If they recant their stories, the police don’t have to investigate. The problem goes away.
However, it doesn’t end there. What this investigative reporter, Rae De Leon, found was a pattern. There were more than two hundred cases showing where a young girl reported an assault, and the police lie to her by telling her they have a video or witness testimony that shows things didn’t happen the way she said. She starts to doubt her memory and recants her story, then she’s arrested for filing a false report.
Some of these girls have gone to jail because of this kind of interrogation. Many of these girls had been drugged or they were drinking, so their memories are sketchy. This plays well for the police. These girls are easier to convince that what they remember is incorrect.
Why would the police do this? First of all, rape is hard to prove especially if alcohol is involved. If they can get a young girl to recant her story, they don’t have to investigate.
According to the documentary, this seems to be normal practice whenever someone reports a rape.
What a horrible tragedy. First, you’re sexually assaulted then the police manipulate you into recanting your story, then you’re arrested for filing a false report. Some of these girls have gone to jail because of this.
This is just another example of victim blaming in our society . If this documentary has taught me anything it’s this. Never report a sexual assault without legal representation with you. A lawyer will be able to stop this kind of questioning by demanding proof of either the video or other evidence they have that negates the victim’s story.
If you are the parent of a young child, this documentary is a must see. It’s important for parents to see how the police operate in these horrible circumstances. That way they can stop the questioning before it becomes damaging to the victim.
Thanks for reading my post. I encourage you to watch the documentary. How would you feel if this happened to your daughter? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!
What I’ve Been Reading
Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today after a week of working and hiking. We finally have hot weather, and I went on a hike Friday. It was so great to get out into the woods. It was peaceful and the fresh air did wonders for me.
I’m planning on getting out into the woods a lot more this summer. I find when I’m out hiking it relieves my stress, and that’s a good thing.
But enough about that. I’ve also been reading, another great way to relieve stress. 😉And I wanted to share with you the latest thriller I’ve read.
It’s titled “Verity.” The title and blurb are below:
Whose truth is the lie? Stay up all night reading the sensational psychological thriller that has readers obsessed, from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Too Late and It Ends With Us.
#1 New York Times Bestseller · USA Today Bestseller · Globe and Mail Bestseller · Publishers Weekly Bestseller
Lowen Ashleigh is a struggling writer on the brink of financial ruin when she accepts the job offer of a lifetime. Jeremy Crawford, husband of bestselling author Verity Crawford, has hired Lowen to complete the remaining books in a successful series his injured wife is unable to finish.
Lowen arrives at the Crawford home, ready to sort through years of Verity’s notes and outlines, hoping to find enough material to get her started. What Lowen doesn’t expect to uncover in the chaotic office is an unfinished autobiography Verity never intended for anyone to read. Page after page of bone-chilling admissions, including Verity’s recollection of the night her family was forever altered.
Lowen decides to keep the manuscript hidden from Jeremy, knowing its contents could devastate the already grieving father. But as Lowen’s feelings for Jeremy begin to intensify, she recognizes all the ways she could benefit if he were to read his wife’s words. After all, no matter how devoted Jeremy is to his injured wife, a truth this horrifying would make it impossible for him to continue loving her.
My Thoughts:
This is the first book I’ve read by this author, and it did not disappoint. This story grabbed my attention from the first page and didn’t let it go. The characters are wonderfully flawed and very real. The author makes you believe Verity didn’t love her children. She was extremely jealous of all the love and attention her husband bestowed upon them. It’s a sad, dark story with an amazing twist at the end. If you’re looking for a great beach read and like thrillers. This one is a must read.
