What can we do about Office Bullies?

Photo courtesy of Lachay Orpen
Photo courtesy of Lachay Orpen

Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today and I’m talking about a hot topic that is on everyone’s mind. That topic is bullying. Bullying is everywhere these days; however, it has been around forever.

I just finished reading “The Book Thief.” A very emotional story and my review is posted here:   https://lisaorchard.wordpress.com/2014/01/13/a-review-of-the-book-thief/

Anyway, as I read the story, I felt the fear of the Germans and the Jews and it made me realize that Hitler was a very powerful bully. This is an extreme example of what can happen when a bully gains power. This is why we must do something about this horrible epidemic.

I know what you’re thinking, this is an extreme example and it has only happened once in our lifetime, but in my opinion once is one too many times. We encounter bullying in all forms. Our kids experience it in our schools. We experience it in the workplace. I’ve written about it many times on my blog and I’ve read many other articles about it.

I have a friend who has just gone through some office bullying. Office bullies are the worst. She was dependent on the bully for training for her position. The bully didn’t like her from day one. She would scream at my friend and treat her disrespectfully in front of customers. My friend went to the boss, but the boss did nothing. You see the boss was dependent on the bully as well. She wasn’t going to upset her either.

The bully was horrible to my friend, she got others in the office to side with her, and they worked against my friend. They sabotaged her and misled her during training. When you’re trained incorrectly, on purpose, you’re bound to make mistakes and incur the wrath of not only the bully but the boss as well.

My friend had no choice but to leave the position. She’s well rid of the job, but it’s unfortunate because she could have excelled at it if the environment had been different. This is why people become bullies, because they get the results they want. It works for them.

It’s unfortunate, but true. So what can we do? We can make sure the bullies don’t win, but we’re going to need the help of corporations. It’s going to require Human Resources to crack down on complaints of bullying and support the victims who report it. I’m sure many events go unreported because the bully is in a position of power. We need to break the code of silence.

We need anti-bullying campaigns not only in our schools, but in our corporations as well. The question is, how do we do that? My guess is that we need to get our representatives involved. We need to make it part of a political campaign.

Wouldn’t you agree?

Thanks for stopping by my blog today. If you’d like to share your experiences with office bullying, please leave a comment. I’d love to read them! And if you have any solutions to the problem, I’d love to read those too!

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Dealing with an Office Bully

Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you! I’m back today after an incredibly busy week of writing, school conferences, and a birthday party that my boys were invited to. It seemed like we had something to do every night last week.

I was glad to go to the boys’ conferences though, because I received glowing reports from their teachers. That always does my heart good to hear that my parenting is having a positive effect.

But, I digress. 🙂 Sorry. I tend to do that when I think about my kids. Anyway, as I was thinking about a post for this week, I remembered that I did a post about bullying a couple of weeks ago. It got me thinking, what do you do when you’re bullied in the workplace?

I’m sure everyone has encountered the bully who tries to intimidate by raising his/her voice and using a condescending attitude. They’re hard to deal with and if you can, I would recommend that you avoid them at all costs. But what happens when you can’t? What happens when the bully is someone you have to work with every day?

Then you have to take control of the situation. The first thing you need to do is confront the bully and tell them his/her behavior is unacceptable. You can do this in a diplomatic way or not. It’s up to you. 😉

You also need to start documenting the abusive behavior. You need dates and details about the incidents. Keep a log; because if the problem reaches the level where you have to take legal action, your lawyer will want the information.

If the behavior doesn’t stop, then you have to take it to the next level and discuss it with your supervisor. It’s imperative that you take this step. He/she will appreciate the opportunity to nip the problem in the bud.

If that doesn’t work, you need to file a complaint with senior management. If human resources doesn’t solve the problem, the next step is legal action. You’ll need to consult an attorney. Your best bet is to find someone who specializes in employment law.

I hope this post helps anyone who’s dealing with a bully at work.

***I want to say a special thank you to this site for some of the information in this post. http://www.rd.com/advice/work-career/5-ways-to-deal-with-an-office-bully/