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The Power of Social Media

Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today after Mother’s Day and a busy week at work and a week of running. I didn’t write much this last week because I’m still noodling over my story, and I’ve been busy with other things. My oldest will walk in his graduation ceremony tomorrow. I’m so excited for him as he starts this new chapter in his life. I’m also sad. I told my hubby it’s time to have another baby. Let’s just say, I freaked him out…a little. 😉

But enough about that, today I’d like to talk about something I’ve noticed on social media. It’s nothing new. People taking selfies and posting them on Facebook or Instagram that’s the norm these days. What I’m beginning to suspect is that people are doing certain activities just to post them on social media.

This has me worried. What kind of connections do we really have if we’re engaging in activities just to create an image on the internet? Our focus should be on improving our relationships and staying in the present moment.

I use Facebook to connect with friends I haven’t seen in a while or that live far away and to market my books. I know. I was one of those authors. Heavy sigh. In my defense, I knew nothing about marketing on Facebook and that’s all I’m going to say about that. LOL.

So many people including our next generation are using social media to sell the idea of themselves whether it’s true or not. Don’t you see where this could be a little confusing for them?

For example, let’s say they post an image of them baking. What if they want to be a master chef? What happens if they don’t get many likes? Will they stop pursuing that dream because it wasn’t popular with their followers?

Now, I know this is an extreme example, but it sure does make you think, doesn’t it?

Is social media going to dictate what goals our next generation pursues based on likes? Right now, this is the power of social media. This power is in its infancy, but it’s there lurking below the surface. I say this because social media’s sole purpose is to keep the user engaged, using any means necessary. That means it will post pictures and articles in your feed to keep you scrolling. They’ve gathered all this information based on what images you interact with on social media.

So, it’s not such a stretch that it could influence our behavior if we’re not careful. So, instead of taking pictures for selfies to post, let’s stay present with our families and friends. Let’s show our kids what a real connection is.  We do this by engaging in activities we actually enjoy and spending time with people we enjoy as well. Let’s show our kids that’s where true happiness lies not on Fakebook posting selfies of what we think our friends and followers will like.

How about you? How do you connect with people you love? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!


I'm a Young Adult Author with two new series, "The Starlight Chronicles" and "The Super Spies." The first one's a coming of age series and the second one's a mystery/thriller series. I'm also the mother of two boys who keep me hopping and they're my inspiration for everything. When I'm not shuttling my boys to school or a play date, I'm writing. When I'm not writing, I'm reading, hiking, or sometimes running. I love anything chocolate and scary movies too.

15 thoughts on “The Power of Social Media

  1. Yes, somehow it got all turned around. It used to be people posting to show what they were up to and catch their fam and friends up, stay in touch, connect. For some it has now turned into creating activities/experiences to show off, driving how they spend their time, instead of things they might rather be doing that are not as exciting, to gain awe and envy when their myriad readers think that’s how they’re really living their lives. A parallel universe,
    And one not based on reality.

  2. Excellent post, Lisa. Social media has been on my mind a lot lately. Nowadays it largely feels like a time eater (one of the reasons why I feel I haven’t been as productive with my writing) and, overall, hasn’t generated many book sales. A friend and fellow blogger recommended I watch The Social Dilemma on Netflix, which was fascinating and eye opening.

    I’m trying to limit my activity compared to what I used to do while I figure out how I want to move forward with it; all my social media accounts are up for consideration as to whether to keep or delete. Hopefully, I’ll figure it all out.

    1. I watched the Social Dilemma as well. It was eye-opening and a little disturbing. I hope by helping bring awareness to the issue a lot of problems can be avoided. Thanks for stopping by, Andrew. I appreciate your support. 🙂

    1. I agree, but there are some strong negatives, too. Just like any new invention I’m sure. Thanks for stopping by and shining your light on some of the positives of social media, too. 🙂

  3. One of the very unfortunate things that has happened in publishing is that in order to sell your book you have to sell yourself. Those things have become intertwined, so unless you’re very well-established and famous, you must have a platform if you want to have a career in publishing. I agree with your thoughts that to counteract this confusion–and especially not pass it on to our kids–we must preference real connection over virtual!

    1. You make a valid point, Rebecca. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. It sounds like we are on the same page on a lot of the parenting issues that we discuss. 🙂

  4. It’s sad to think people can’t be their authentic selves on social media, Lisa. To thine own self be true, as Shakespeare said. There’s truth to that, girlfriend! Great post, as usual!

  5. Lisa, congratulation to your son. Wishing best of luck for his new journey. You sure know how to evoke a shock response!
    The world is changing and I think the best and deep connections are in person. Yes, it is possible to develop deep connections over social media too but it is tricky and not for everyone. But I guess this is the future.

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