Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back after a week of work, writing, and reading. I’ve also been running. It helps me manage my weight and my stress. During the winter months, I found a gym with an indoor track that allowed me to run inside, so I was able to maintain my running schedule. But enough about me, today I’d like to talk about dealing with our inner critic.
We’ve all got one, that nagging voice inside our heads that whispers, “You’re not good enough.” Sometimes we can beat that voice into a bloody pulp, but other times that voice cripples us. Where did this voice come from? I have a theory. It’s the voice of your most negative parent.
I find this voice doesn’t always whisper. I can feel it ramping up my anxiety when I’m writing. It takes a lot of energy to still this voice in my head, but I’ve learned some techniques that help me, and I thought I’d share them with the rest of the creatives out there who’re trying to get your work out into the world.
The first thing I do when I feel that old anxiety creeping through my body tensing my muscles and stealing my good mood is, I remind myself that I’m trying to break into a tough business. Writing and publishing is tough right now. It’s not a walk in the park. I’m trying to do something that’s extremely hard.
Then I make sure and manage my stress. I go for a walk, run, or hike. Physical activity is a great way to get those endorphins flowing, and those endorphins drown out that nagging voice in my head. I bet it will work for you, too.
Another way I quiet that voice is I get together with other creatives. We all need the support of our creative family. People who believe in us and cheer us on. When that inner critic gets too loud, I hang out with my fellow creatives, and it does wonders for my motivation and drive.
Another way I quiet that voice is I take a break. Sometimes we’ve been working so hard on a project that we become over correctors, and you can’t tell if what you’ve written is gold or dribble. That’s when I take a break and put the story out of my head. Sometimes we just need to get away from it for a little while.
Sometimes I read when I take a break or watch a movie. Something that takes my mind off the story and allows me to relax. Other times, I’ll hike through the woods or walk along the beach. Whatever I feel I need at the time.
So, there you have it. Some ways I squash that inner critic. How about you? How do you quiet that negative Nancy raging through your head? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!
19 thoughts on “How to Quiet That Inner Critic”
All wonderful ways to cope with that inner critic, Lisa! Yes, feeling not enough stems from childhood. Author Marisa Peer wrote a book called #I am enough. It’s a great read and helps reprogram that inner critic. Wink. Cheers, girlfriend!
Ahh…I’ll have to check that book out! Thanks for stopping by, Sharon! I appreciate your support!
I go for a walk and it helps.
Yes, it sure does. It gets those endorphins going that’s for sure. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it.
You are so welcome! I love your post so refreshing. So thank you.
Awww…thank you! That made my day! 🙂
Such good advice! I find listening to music or going for a walk always helps me. 🙂
Yes, I forgot about music! How could I forget that? LOL! Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts, I appreciate it! 🙂
I love your ways to silence that inner critic, and it’s also so important for me to have a little mantra–language that says exactly the opposite of what that critic is saying!! It makes me very nervous sometimes to sing in front of other people. It’s easy to feel like I should just give up and leave it to the professionals but I love it and I’m not terrible. So I tell myself, “you’re f-ing great.” Even if it’s not always 100 percent true, it’s a good and short mantra that makes me feel more confident!
I love that mantra! And I do think you’re fucking great. I might have to steal that one from you. I hope you don’t mind! 😉
Ha, steal away, my friend!!
Great ways to stay calm and manage the situation, Lisa
Thanks, Arv! I appreciate your support!
Happy to be following your blog, Lisa
I’m happy to follow yours as well Arv. 🙂 I love your photos and I’m hoping to visit your country one day.
I’m happy you enjoy Jaipurthrumylens, Lisa. 🙂