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Predators in our Society

 

 

Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. We’re in the dog days of summer and I love it. It’s finally that hot, muggy weather we all know and love. I’ve been running outside in the mornings because it’s cooler and I prefer running outside to running on a treadmill. I get time outside plus I’m exercising. Win. Win. I’ve also started a new WIP. I’m very excited about this one and it’s going smoothly right now. 😊

 

But enough about that. Today, I’d like to talk about a couple of documentaries I watched in the last couple of months. The first one was “Jeffery Epstein: Filthy Rich” and the other was “Athlete A.” The first one needs no explanation, but the second one was about Larry Nassar and his sexual abuse of gymnasts who came under his care.

 

In both documentaries, you see first-hand how sexual predators work. Whether the abuser is setting up the victim to be trafficked or he’s setting them up to be abused by himself the pattern is the same. They choose a vulnerable kid, ply them with gifts, and promises of a better life. When they’ve got them hooked that’s when the abuse starts.  In the case of Jeffery Epstein. He’d pick vulnerable girls and promise them money, travel, and training so they could have a better life then he’d get them out onto his island.

In the case of Larry Nassar, he would ply the girls with candy and gifts in the rough world of gymnastics, then under the guise of physical exams, he’d sexually abuse them. He was in a position of power and he abused it.

It took a lot of courage for these girls to speak up and report him. Can you imagine how the parents must feel? They believe they’re giving their daughter this amazing opportunity and they send her to this camp where she’s molested.

 

Athlete A Poster

This just goes to show you, you can’t trust anyone with your kid. Parents weren’t allowed out to the camp where the abuse took place by the good doctor. That’s a huge red flag. When kids are isolated away from their parents, they’re vulnerable.

We as parents must make sure our kids are safe. Remember, these predators don’t go after kids whose parents are involved in their lives. They go after vulnerable kids, and what better way to make a kid vulnerable than to separate them from their parents. Predators take jobs that give them easy access to victims. For example, camp counselors, day care workers, and even teachers. So, when a camp or an organization denies you access to your kids, it’s a huge red flag.

Larry Nassar

Also, when the organization doesn’t do anything about your accusation, it’s time to pull your child. In my opinion, in the case of the “good doctor,” he should have been suspended as soon as the accusation reached the president of the organization. The fact that Steve Penny took so long to act is another huge red flag. That doctor should have been suspended until a full investigation could take place.

Steve Penny must be held accountable for his part in continuing the abuse. It upsets me that he dragged his feet. How much effort does it take to replace the doctor?

 

Portrait of Steve Penny 2012

These documentaries are infuriating and eye-opening. The victims in these situations cease to be real people to the abusers They are pawns used to meet the abusers needs. Steve Penny is also an abuser because he enabled the doctor to have access to the girls after the abuse was reported. He needs to be held accountable, too.

How do you feel about the situation? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

 

 

Author:

I'm a Young Adult Author with two new series, "The Starlight Chronicles" and "The Super Spies." The first one's a coming of age series and the second one's a mystery/thriller series. I'm also the mother of two boys who keep me hopping and they're my inspiration for everything. When I'm not shuttling my boys to school or a play date, I'm writing. When I'm not writing, I'm reading, hiking, or sometimes running. I love anything chocolate and scary movies too.

14 thoughts on “Predators in our Society

  1. Haven’t watched either of those documentaries, Lisa. They would make my blood boil. Cheers and be well, my friend!

    1. Yeah, I hear you, Sharon. I try to learn as much as I can about these predators so I know the signs to look for. Thanks for stopping by, I appreciate your support. Sorry for the gruesome post. 😦

  2. I haven’t heard or seen either of those documentries. There is a fallacy that exists pertaining to these kind of crimes. People think such things don’t exists in developed countries because they have better regulations and superior legal system. I was shocked to hear about the annual figures of rape cases in the USA. Problems exists everywhere. It is sad to hear about the abuse by this doctor.

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Arv! I know. It saddens me that there are so many sick individuals out there. I feel like we’ve barely scratched the surface on this and it’s scary. Sadly, violence is everywhere. I wish the President of the Gymnastics organization would have suspended the doctor until he was proven guilty or innocent. That way he couldn’t have harmed more girls. Thanks again for stopping by, Arv. I appreciate your support.

      1. I agree, Lisa. Unfortunately, a lot of these individuals know how to keep the influence going and there by evade any action. Thanks for writing wonderful post, Lisa

  3. It’s all so sad and disgusting, the perversity and evil, really, that drives some to do such harm to children (and adults). A friend’s husband is a detective, and so she fills me in on his knowledge of predators grooming, etc. It is like a hellscape–I can’t imagine having to work in such a field, day in and day out. But that is our world, and these (mostly) male predators do exist. You’re right in that it’s good to know the signs, and to trust our intuition. I was never a gymnast, but the ballet world has its share of problems, too. When I think back to the mandate that parents not watch classes and rehearsals, I think of the power this gave our teachers and ballet masters/mistresses over our parents. That separation was for good reason; we worked harder when we knew we couldn’t look over our shoulders to our parents and give them puppy eyes! Teachers yelled at us plenty and berated us occasionally for our failings, but they also loved us and made us better at our art. Also, young ballet dancers, like aspiring professional athletes are obsessed with perfection (over mind and body)–and will do anything to get there. There’s no work/life balance or democracy or caution when it comes to this life. I wouldn’t trade my growing up in the ballet studio, but I thank God everyday I didn’t run across someone with evil intentions. We parents can’t protect our kids at every turn, but I do think trusting that gut instinct is key.

    1. You are so right, Rebecca. These predators know how to pick vulnerable kids, so the best thing to do is be involved in your kids life. I feel so bad for kids who have been abused. It affects them for the rest of their lives. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and opening my eyes that it does happen with other sports as well. 🙂

  4. I heard they just arrested Epstein’s accomplice/girlfriend. Who knows what further horrors she’ll reveal. It’s terrible that there are so many people we can’t trust with our children!

    1. I hear you! I saw that on the news as well. It sure took them a long time to arrest her, but maybe they were building a case against her. I don’t know. I’m glad to see that she isn’t getting away with anything.

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