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Parenting: It’s not for Sissies

Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving. I know I did. Although, it seems like the holidays fly by faster and faster every year. I love the holidays and it’s always great to get together with the family and catch up.

I was also productive with my writing. I got a couple of scenes done and I’m getting closer to the end. I’m hoping I’ll get this done by the end of the year or maybe even January. Cross your fingers for me. It’s getting close. 😊

 

But enough about that. Today, I’d like to talk about the sadness of watching your children grow and become more independent. I know they’re supposed to grow up and move away, but I get so much joy just hanging out with them and hearing their stories that it makes me sad to think about the time when they won’t be there. I’m sure every parent experiences this, but for some reason, I’m becoming more acutely aware of it every year that passes.

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I enjoyed all of it, watching them grow and watching their personalities develop. That’s why when I hear statistics saying that the suicide rate for teens has doubled. It scares me. I don’t want to lose my kids to something like that. So, I talk to them about depression and anxiety. I tell them that anxiety runs in our family and if they’re feeling anxious, they can talk to me or the hubster. But I worry. I worry that talking about it isn’t enough.

So, I try to tell them about coping mechanisms they can use to relieve their anxiety or stress. I tell them how exercise is a great way to calm your mind. I’m hoping to get them into the habit of exercising at least three or four times a week. Right now, they have gym class so it’s not a big deal, but later in life exercising a couple times a week will help them manage their stress.

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I’m trying to prepare them for every situation that comes down the pike, but this is an impossible task. Some things we can only learn through experiencing them first hand.  I hope I’ve given them enough so they’re resilient when adversity strikes. I hope. I hope. I hope.

I know every parent has these thoughts and feelings and I’ll get through them, but I miss those years when they were younger, and they came to me with all their problems. Those years went by so fast. In the blink of an eye they became teenagers with smart mouths and sassy attitudes. I love to hear them stand up for themselves though. It does my heart good to know they’re not afraid to voice their opinion even if they’re different from mine.

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Parenting is a tough gig. No one prepares you for when the kids start to leave the nest. Sigh. They’re not there yet, but it’s coming, and I can tell when it happens, I’m going to be a mess. Thanks for reading my rambling post today. Do you have any ideas on how to handle your kids’ growing independence? If you’ve got some advice, leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

 

 

Author:

I'm a Young Adult Author with two new series, "The Starlight Chronicles" and "The Super Spies." The first one's a coming of age series and the second one's a mystery/thriller series. I'm also the mother of two boys who keep me hopping and they're my inspiration for everything. When I'm not shuttling my boys to school or a play date, I'm writing. When I'm not writing, I'm reading, hiking, or sometimes running. I love anything chocolate and scary movies too.

13 thoughts on “Parenting: It’s not for Sissies

  1. Seems like you’ve done an awesome job so far! Kudos, Lisa! My ‘baby’ is getting married next year. Yikes! I know my hubby and I did our best to raise a well-adjusted, responsible adult. Great post, as usual. Parenting is truly the toughest job in the world, more now than ever! Cheers!

  2. I agree with you 100%.
    My son is 21 now…and although it was rough with him to a certain degree, we got through it rather well.
    My daughter is 14 and girls are VERY different! It’s a struggle… mostly a battle of wills….
    All I can do for her is give her the tools she will need to face the situations she is bound to face at some stage or another. Because I have realised that it’s the same as with us adults – it doesn’t matter how many books you read or courses you study : change, coping and dealing with things in the correct manner is UP TO YOU!
    It’s still terribly tough though… and I want to protect her from all pain….
    Parenting is not for sissies! Especially single parenting!

    You DO sound like you’re on the right path though. Here’s hoping for divine interaction and tips for you…to share with us 😉

    1. Awww. thanks so much for your words of encouragement. I have had people tell me that girls are totally different from boys. So, I feel for you. I’ve heard girls are harder, especially during the teen years. You are right, we can’t prepare them for every situation Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. It means a lot to me to get this kind of support. 🙂

  3. Lisa, you are doing a fab job – preparing them for a better future! The feeling that they won’t be around you forever is not great but the satisfaction of turning into a high flier is immense.

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