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Developing Emotional Intelligence


Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I have to apologize, I’ve been neglecting my blog because I’ve been focusing on getting my story together. It’s getting there and I’m loving it. So, sorry, but I’m not sorry. 😊


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Today, I’d like to talk about family time. It’s so important in today’s busy world. When did we become such a busy society? We’re always doing instead of taking moments to enjoy each other and our family members. My kids are growing up way too fast. It’s driving me crazy how fast they’re growing up. I’m trying to slow it down, but I can’t. It’s like a runaway freight train. So, I try to plan family nights and we try to eat our evening meals together. We also try to have one evening of family time where we watch a movie together or play cards.

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We were playing hearts last night and the boys were laughing because they were making sure I got all the hearts and the Queen of Spades. All the hearts except for a couple, so I couldn’t shoot the moon, but I digress. Anyway they were ganging up on me because that’s their way of saying they love me. 😉

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Out of the blue, my oldest says, “Look at her face. She’s getting mad.”

I wasn’t mad, but I wasn’t happy either and he picked up on that and the boys stopped teasing me. I still lost, but that’s beside the point.

I was happy to hear my son pick up on my frustration. I don’t like being ganged up on, and he could tell. This is an important lesson, and I’m glad my kids are learning it. They are developing their emotional intelligent.

Emotional intelligence is so important in life. Our teens need to be able to gauge when their spouse, or boss, or a co-worker are upset with them. All the screen time kids get takes away from their ability to pick up on social cues. So, we as parents have to provide them emotional intelligence lessons and I feel that last night was a good one. Even if I did lose. 😉

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I’m trying to give them as many teachable moments as I can because they are going to run into adversity and unfairness in the world. I hope I’m giving them the tools they’ll need to persevere and overcome it. Thanks for stopping by and reading my post. How about you? How are you helping your kids develop their emotional intelligence? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!


I'm a Young Adult Author with two new series, "The Starlight Chronicles" and "The Super Spies." The first one's a coming of age series and the second one's a mystery/thriller series. I'm also the mother of two boys who keep me hopping and they're my inspiration for everything. When I'm not shuttling my boys to school or a play date, I'm writing. When I'm not writing, I'm reading, hiking, or sometimes running. I love anything chocolate and scary movies too.

10 thoughts on “Developing Emotional Intelligence

  1. With two boys and a husband, I occasionally get ganged up on too, which I don’t like at all. Actually this post is apropos. Last night one of my boys told me to hurry up, that I was spending too much time on Twitter when I was supposed to be reading to my guys before bed–from an actual book. I thought about it and told him this morning that I’m going to make a real effort not to choose screen time over our time together (unless it’s an unavoidable work thing). He said, “Oh mom, you take everything so seriously,” but I think it’s good to model intention and to talk about it. So, they seem to teach me just as much, if not more, than I teach them!

    1. I hear you, Rebecca! And what’s so cool about that is the fact that you listened to him and took his comment seriously. I feel that’s so good for their self esteem when we do that. I can tell you’re a good Mom! Keep up the good work. We need more Moms like you! 🙂

      1. You’re too kind, Lisa! Honestly, I get good parenting tips from you! I just hate to let the little moments when I can listen pass by–because soon enough my guys will be in college and then on their own. It all goes by so fast!

  2. I think you are correct in what you are doing Lisa and we have always played cards/games on a regular basis or just use mealtimes to chat about different things. Kids are quite intuitive and pick up on moods and facial expressions and it is something they need to know how to deal with and as Becca said they can teach us a few things as well 🙂 x Have a lovely weekend and thank you for all the likes 🙂

  3. Social cues are so important to teach. Another great post, Lisa! Enjoy the time with your family! Cheers!

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