Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today after almost two months of non-writing. Today, I finally broke the trend and did some editing of one of my stories. I’m back in the saddle again and it feels good. Whenever, I go through these stages of non-writing, I always read because I love to, and when I’m suffering from a little burn out, reading is always my “go to” activity. There’s nothing more comforting on a cold, rainy day than a good book. Am I right, or am I right?
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But enough about that. When I first started this post, I was going to give you a good list of some of the books I’ve been reading, but then inspiration hit, and I’ve decided to write about something else. I’ll do the book one later. 😉
Today, I’d like to talk about sacrifices. I know it’s not really a pleasant subject, but one that I feel has to be addressed. You see, all the great writers, artists, and athletes made sacrifices to get where they are now. They sacrificed time with their families and loved ones to practice and create. That shows grit and initiative and that’s great. I’m sure they don’t regret their success. However, I wonder if they ever ask themselves if it was worth it?
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At first glance, you may think I’m crazy for having such a thought, but it’s out there now, so let’s run with it.
Was their success worth their sacrifice?
It’s a good question and I wish I had someone like Michael Jordan or Stephen King around to ask. I’m sure they would say yes, but it’s something I struggle with. Because we all would love to have that kind of success, but the time away from family is hard to take sometimes. So, every time I sit down to write, I ask myself, can I indulge my passion at this time? Am I neglecting my family’s needs? Because let’s face it, I’m not going to get these moments back. So, there are times when I put the computer away and hang out with my family, watching a silly movie or watch my youngest play tennis. It’s a conscious choice during these moments to put my writing on the back burner and sometimes it’s hard, but it’s worth it.
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So, whenever you’re feeling bad because you’re not putting as much effort into your writing or you just need to take a break. Stop yourself. Because moments with your family can disappear in an instant and you might not ever get them back and my motto is live without regret.
So, do I regret not spending time writing the last two months? Well, there are moments when I think I should be further along in my story than what I am, but then I look at the fact that I was sick, so I had to take care of myself. Then I look at the tennis matches I got to watch and see the joy on my youngest’s face when he would see me show up at his tennis game and the sacrifice was worth it. I don’t regret it.
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Yes, it’ll take me longer to get to that bestseller’s list but that’s okay. I’ll have enjoyed the journey to get there much more because I didn’t miss any important steps along the way.
So, when you see other authors getting an agent or hitting the bestseller’s list and you feel like you’re missing out, just think of it as it’s their time to shine. It’s not yours yet. You’re still working on being a great mom and being there for your kids. You’ll get your moment when it’s your time.
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So, relax and enjoy your journey. Enjoy all the steps along the way. It’ll make the destination that much sweeter!
Thanks for reading my post today! How do you feel? Are you enjoying your journey? Leave a comment. I’d love to hear from you!
12 thoughts on “Is it Worth it?”
It is definitely a challenge to balance life and creative aspirations, and it can be disheartening to know that my writing may never be as good as it could be, because I have a family. Or, maybe it will be better because I have that well of experience and togetherness to draw from? I hope the latter. Still, I wouldn’t change it. Sounds like you’re doing your best at figuring it all out as you go! It’s all any of us can be expected to do, I think!
You are so right, Rebecca and I have to remember that success looks different for everyone. 🙂 Sounds like you’re figuring things out as well! We should cheer each other on!! 🙂
I think what you’re doing is creating balance in your life, Lisa. And you’re right, you can’t get the time back with your family. So enjoy. Writing is a process, and I know you’re in for the long haul like me. Hugs and great post!
Awww…thanks, Sharon. I appreciate your support. Congrats on your new release! I’m so excited for you!!
Thanks so much, Lisa! Can’t believe I have 5 books out now! I’m in for the long haul! Woohoo! Cheers, girlfriend!
Cheers right back at you!!
What a great post. I’m glad you’ve found such a good balance in your life.
Awww…thank you Lydia. I appreciate you stopping by. 🙂
Thank you! Thanks for stopping by! 🙂
Your question also has another aspect. FOMO. Fear of missing out. I’m sure you must have read about it.
Welcome back, Lisa!
Yes, I have. It’s funny but I don’t feel like I’m missing out right now, but I know I’ve felt that way in the past. I think when you decide what’s important to you and what you want to accomplish, those decisions give you a direction and a path. Then you don’t feel like you’re missing out. 🙂