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Strive to be Internally Oriented


Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today after a busy weekend of writing and Christmas shopping. We’re all done for this year. (I think 😉)

For some reason this year is less stressful. I’m not sure why. Maybe because my boys want a lot of electronics and that’s not my department, that’s my hubby’s. So, the pressure’s off me this year. I hope your shopping is going well.

Well, enough about shopping, today I want to talk about something that’s been kind of nagging at me. I’ve noticed with the social media craze that’s going on that people are becoming more externally oriented instead of internally oriented.


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We’re becoming obsessed with followers, likes, and memes. This is unfortunate because we’re ignoring the internal work that we all need to do as individuals. We need to figure out what sets our souls on fire and pursue that. Social media is a distraction not a way of life.

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If we become more internally oriented, we’ll be happier. We’ll stop comparing ourselves to others because we’ll be so busy pursuing what makes us happy we won’t have time for anything else. Being internally oriented makes us more self-aware and self-focused.

This is important for our growth and development because without this awareness we’ll be floating through life reacting to the tides instead of steering our course. As parents, when we’re self-aware, we teach our children to focus on their dreams and goals. We give them permission to pursue them.


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So, let’s set that example for our children and start becoming more internally oriented. By focusing on what makes us feel good about ourselves, we don’t have to look outside for validation. This makes us stronger and happier individuals.

Let’s put this social media craze on the back burner and build better relationships with ourselves. By doing this, we’ll be making our relationships with our partners and our children stronger. We’ll have a stronger connection with our family members and that’s where it all starts, isn’t it?

Thanks for stopping by and reading my post today. What are your thoughts? How do you think we can become more internally oriented? Leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you!


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I'm a Young Adult Author with two new series, "The Starlight Chronicles" and "The Super Spies." The first one's a coming of age series and the second one's a mystery/thriller series. I'm also the mother of two boys who keep me hopping and they're my inspiration for everything. When I'm not shuttling my boys to school or a play date, I'm writing. When I'm not writing, I'm reading, hiking, or sometimes running. I love anything chocolate and scary movies too.

6 thoughts on “Strive to be Internally Oriented

  1. Agreed on all fronts. Social media “likes” and whatnot are so fleeting, they matter for about two hours until the next big viral tweet comes along. It’s all so hollow. It’s way too easy to click a like button and not engage at all.

    I read about a book deal someone got from a tweet that went viral and they were given something insane like 90 days to turn a single tweet into a whole book, because the publisher didn’t want the viral momentum of it to die down before the book came out. That just seemed really sad and pointless to me. I imagine they probably sold some copies for a couple weeks and then it was just dead in the water. A forgotten book-length tweet!

    1. Wow! I hadn’t heard of that. I’m sure it died down when another tweet came along. It’d be interesting to check out that book! Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts, I appreciate it!

  2. This year will also be less stressful for me as well. Mainly what causes stress during this time of year is the crowds and I am a very introverted person so family dinners, rushing to visit everyone is always so exhausting and takes all my energy to the point I shut down. This year it will just be the hubby and I as I am miles away from my family, and as for his family well it’s a long story but it looks like no plans there. Most people would be disappointed to just be spending Christmas with their hubby or wife or one person, but not me. I am excited and with working in retail for a person like myself with the holidays I need the break to just enjoy Christmas day quietly. As for shopping most of us in the families decided christmas isn’t about gifts or materialism, we don’t have our own kids yet that most of us would rather save money for other things like us going to see my family in the new year for a visit. So I skipped out on Xmas shopping really as well as that is something else that stresses me out on all levels.

    As for the rest of your post I completely agree and let’s just say this is why I deleted all my social media accounts a few years back. I saw the obsession with it and how ridiculous it all really was back then. I was an online junkie for far too long and literally did live my life online so I know from experience it is not healthy. I worry for the future as it is getting worse. But I could rant on forever about such topics, but yeah the only thing I have left is my wordpress account which is for writing and not for followers or what not. I have even see on wordpress that people are so concerned about followers, likes etc that it over takes their writing and I have actually had to stop following certain individuals because of it.

    I agree we need to be building better relationships for ourselves and we need to go back to talking in person more to one another than say on facebook messenger. I no longer take part in any of it because its poison. Facebook is the most ridiculous thing in my opinion. I can’t believe how many hours I would spend scrolling the news feed only to see silly posts like what that person had for dinner that night when instead I could be cooking and enjoying my own dinner with people I love. News flash people NO ONE CARES WHAT YOU HAD FOR DINNER IT IS NOT NEWS WORTHY. Sorry I get super ragey what people think is important on those feeds. It is like everyone wants validation or to be famous, but they don’t know why they want to be famous and they don’t do anything to deserve such besides sit on facebook and just post every excruciating detail about their life without realzing their life is actually yes that boring. Technology is one of the greatest inventions of human kind, but the more we abuse it the more I think it is a curse. People be like I bought my 10 year old a cell phone so I can always get a hold of them and can look out for them, they will never get lost and I be like “I wonder what people did back before cell phones…Oh wait they actually had a real relationship with their children and probably trusted them.” just saying 😛 it is another pet peeve that drives me buts that kinda relates to technology and social media.

  3. Loved the way you revealed your inner wisdom, Lisa. Wishing you all the best to you and your family in 2019! Happy Holidays, my friend!

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