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Finding Balance in 2018

 

 

Hello everyone. I hope all is well with you. I’m back today and I’ve gone through the edits on my latest MS. It’s coming together and I’m excited about this story! I’m going to go through it one more time before I start the query process so wish me luck!

 

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I don’t know about you, but lately I’ve been struggling with finding balance. I’m devoting as much time as I can to my writing, but it’s hard when you only have so many hours in the day and so many goals. For example, I’m trying to be the best mom I can be, the best writer I can be, and live my best life. Sometimes my goals compete with each other, and I have to choose.

I always put my kids first, but when I do that, I have to put my writing aside for later, but when I do that I ultimately skip my exercising for the day, and let’s face it, that’s not good for my health. Then I have to deal with the guilt of not taking care of myself.

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So to avoid that, and the frustration I feel if I don’t spend time each day writing, I’ve worked out a schedule where I focus on one goal at a time and I give myself permission to focus on that one goal. This is important, giving yourself permission because it alleviates all those negative emotions like guilt and frustration.

 

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I’ve also whittled my goals down to three. This is a big step because sometimes the reason we can’t find balance is because we’ve overloaded ourselves. So I’ve simplified them and shrunk them down to three broad ones.

I want to be the best mom I can be and that means being present and taking care of my kids’ emotional and physical needs. However, to be the best mom I can be, there are times when I have to take care of me, too. So I’m going to make sure I take time to exercise and eat healthy and every once in a while take a little time to just be instead of do.

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I also want to be the best writer I can be so I’ve got to take time to do this. I’ve got to hone my craft and write incredible stories. 🙂 I’m doing this by working with critique partners and mentors. I want my writing to move to the next level and the only way to do that is to improve.

 

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I also want to live my best life. To do that I have to take care of my relationships with my hubby and my kids and my extended family and friends.

This is how I’m going into 2018. I’m simplifying and focuses with a laser instead of a flashlight. How about you? How are you approaching the New Year and what do you see on the horizon? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

Author:

I'm a Young Adult Author with two new series, "The Starlight Chronicles" and "The Super Spies." The first one's a coming of age series and the second one's a mystery/thriller series. I'm also the mother of two boys who keep me hopping and they're my inspiration for everything. When I'm not shuttling my boys to school or a play date, I'm writing. When I'm not writing, I'm reading, hiking, or sometimes running. I love anything chocolate and scary movies too.

23 thoughts on “Finding Balance in 2018

  1. Honestly, I am focusing more on myself now than I have ever in my entire life. I actually have time to spend doing things for myself And my family. But, I am finding it hard to not feel guilty about the time spent on myself. I am the one holding myself back from living the best life I can! That is what I need to work on 🙂

  2. The balancing act is a real struggle. I try not to take on too much to prevent becoming overwhelmed and then feel badly because I feel like I should be more proactive. As you say, though, keeping it a bit simpler will definitely help with keeping myself saner!

  3. Well, since I’ve already been sick twice this year, I’m having to give myself permission to stop and get better. It’s hard to NOT do, but I’m sick of being sick.

    1. I hear you, Cynthia. Kudos to you for stopping and taking the time to get better. I understand how you feel. That’s why I kick myself whenever I skip a run to write because I know, exercise is so good for me. I’m going to stop doing that though. I’m giving myself permission to put my health first and I see you are, too! 🙂

  4. Yo, Lisa! I’m approaching this year by doing what makes me happy, brings me joy, and enhances my life. Hugs and wishing you all the best, my friend!

  5. Congratulations on getting through the editing process! (I want to love that part, but I find it challenging.) I think your whittling process makes sense. Losing the guilt when it comes to saying “this time is my time” is so important, I think. I’m honestly tired of “should-ing” all over myself sometimes! Like, I should be doing the dishes. Or I should be going to that soccer game. Or I should be blah blah blah. I think honing in on priorities and sticking to them like glue is a great approach.

    1. Thanks Angela! So far it has been working pretty good for me. (crosses fingers). And you are so right about the shoulding all over ourselves. (I love that phrase by the way). That’s when guilt rears its ugly head. That’s sounds like a great blog post by the way! LOL! Why don’t you write it since you invented the phrase? 🙂

  6. As always Lisa, you read my mind. I am struggling with balance. My teenage daughters are demanding and my puppy is doing his best to distract me. I also have a stressful day job. My writing always second place.

  7. This is so great! Yes, we need to find balance in our lives. What’s more, as you mention, we can’t beat ourselves up when we get off track. Or, when something else demands our attention. Although humans focus on strict time schedules, the Universe doesn’t. It will all work out in the right time….

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