Ten things you can do to Ease the Pain of your Children’s Growing Independence

 

 

Hello everyone. I hope all is well with you. This has been an incredibly busy week. The kids’ last day of school was Friday. My youngest has graduated fifth grade and he’s on his way to middle school. I’m proud of both my boys. They’re getting good grades, they have awesome friends, and they’re both well adjusted.

They’re just growing up too fast. Sob.

Today I thought I’d talk about what to do when you’re kids start to become independent. When they don’t need your hugs and kisses or your undivided attention like they used to. It can be a little disconcerting at first. You might be like me and try to cling to those sweet, innocent years and refuse to believe they’ve grown up, but they’ll start to squirm under this parental love and even start to fight against it. (Gasp!)

To avoid becoming one of those clingy moms and ease the pain of my boys’ abandonment…I mean their growing independence, I’ve put together a list to help snuff out that agony for us moms.

 

  1. First and foremost, I’ve increased my writing time. My writing has improved and I have some amazing stories coming down the pike.

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  1. I read. Now that both boys are out of diapers and don’t need as much supervision, I’ve been able to increase my reading time. This has been an awesome stress reliever for me and something I enjoy immensely.

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  1. Start binge-watching movies and TV series. There are some awesome shows available now and it’s kind of fun when I need some down time to relax in front of the TV. You can always add drinking wine to this one. Just an FYI. 😉 I do this more in the winter than summer. It’s one of those seasonal things.

 

  1. I’ve increased my running time. This has had such a positive effect on me. Any type of exercise is good for you and it’s especially important for writers to exercise because writing is such a sedentary thing to do. I find exercise has helped my attitude and increased my energy. I get more writing done! That’s always a good thing!

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  1. I’ve started painting. I get together with my friends and we have a painting party. It’s a great way to relax. You can also add wine to this activity as well. Just sayin’ 😉

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  1. Before I had kids, I used to do Yoga. It’s such a tremendous way to increase your flexibility and it’s good for that mind-body connection. I plan on starting this up again.

 

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  1. Get together with friends and play cards. Again, before kids, I used to do this about once a month. It was always a great way to get away from the pressures of life and be social. You can also add wine to this activity, too. 😉

 

  1. I’ve increased my hiking time. There’s nothing like getting out in nature. It’s so relaxing and good for you, too.

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  1. I haven’t done this one yet, but my plan for the summer is to spend more time in the kitchen and find some new meals for my family and I to enjoy. I don’t know about you but sometimes we get stuck in a food rut and we need to expand our meal repertoire.

 

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  1. I also plan on working in our yard. My plan is to plant some Hosta plants. They’re such hearty plants and they don’t need a lot of maintenance. Digging in the dirt is always a fun activity.

 

So there you have it ten things you can do to ease the heartache of your kids’ growing independence. It’s a good thing. Good for them and you. 🙂

 

Thanks for stopping by and reading my post. What do you do when your kids don’t need your undivided attention anymore? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

 

 

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About Lisa Orchard

I'm a Young Adult Author with two new series, "The Starlight Chronicles" and "The Super Spies." The first one's a coming of age series and the second one's a mystery/thriller series. I'm also the mother of two boys who keep me hopping and they're my inspiration for everything. When I'm not shuttling my boys to school or a play date, I'm writing. When I'm not writing, I'm reading, hiking, or sometimes running. I love anything chocolate and scary movies too.
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20 Responses to Ten things you can do to Ease the Pain of your Children’s Growing Independence

  1. Ritu says:

    It’s great when they gain Independence… but I crave for the time they need me and it me too!

  2. Em Linthorpe says:

    Great post, full of great ideas and info!

    Whereas my tween daughter is very independent and doesn’t really need me much for the day to day stuff any more (already!) we are very close and I hope that continues forever. The toddler though…well…he’s usually climbing all over me or making a mess that I need to attend to for 10 hours a day, so I still have to wait a bit longer for any independence from the little man 😂

    • Lisa Orchard says:

      LOL! The toddler will grow fast! I’m sure you experienced that with your daughter. I’m glad you’re close. Nothing beats a great relationship with your kids. 🙂

  3. Great post. But, of course, I probably would have enjoyed it even more had I been proactive enough to add wine to the process of reading it.

  4. I blog and read. Precious moments! #SundayBlogShare

  5. angelanoelauthor says:

    These are all great suggestions! I love yoga, hiking, writing, reading AND cooking. (I’m out on the painting one, though.) My now eight-year-old still likes hugs and cuddles, but I do need to prepare myself. Every day I say, “Stop Growing!” but he just won’t listen. 🙂

  6. Reading, Netflixing, painting, running, hiking… Lisa you have NAILED my to-do list. So great to meet my kind of people in this huge blogisphere!

  7. Christy B says:

    These are all great ideas, Lisa! I love to read too. It’s an escape 🙂 But sometimes – like last night – time gets away from me and I’m reading past when lights ought to be out hehe

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