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The War on Perfection


Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today and I’m talking about New Year Resolutions. It’s funny, but I’ve noticed the same goals find their way back on my list year after year. It seems like I make these resolutions, but somewhere along the way they get forgotten as I get busy with my day to day life. As I made my list this year, I added the old “lose weight and get back into shape.” A repeat goal from previous years.

Then one of my favorite speakers, one I was able to see in person, wrote this Facebook post. She’s brilliant and strong and vulnerable all at the same time.

Her name is Anne Lamott and here’s the article.

In a nutshell, she talks about accepting our bodies the way they are, that dieting doesn’t work, and you’ll gain the weight back plus five pounds. It happens every time.

Then I read this post.

This one’s about Oprah Winfrey and how she bought stock in Weight Watchers and made close to seventy million dollars in one day. Now she’s their spokesperson and she’s encouraging women to step up to the plate and lose weight. She understands your battle. She’s going to fight with you and make millions off of you while you do it. I’ve always been a fan of Oprah. She’s accomplished so much in her life, but this article made me uneasy, especially after reading the previous one.

That’s when I had an epiphany. I realized our society has always socked it to us women. I’m not being sexist here. It’s true. We have millions of makeup companies who preach to us about covering up our flaws and we buy into this crap because we want to be perfect. We want to look like the air-brushed models on TV and in the magazines. But who is defining perfection for us?

The makeup companies?

The Clothing Manufacturers?

How do they know what perfection is? How did they become experts?

These companies are making millions marketing to our insecurities and selling the idea that their products will help us reach that magical state of perfection if we purchase them. Don’t feel bad. I fell for it too. But now I’m older and wiser.

I realize, we’re already perfect. All of us. How do I know? Well, here’s the thing and I realized this back in college, but forgot it somewhere along the way. No one in the world looks exactly like us. So no one can be more beautiful than us.

Our perfection is in our uniqueness.

Why in the world would we want to look like someone else? If we strive to copy someone else, we’ll always feel second best, because no one can do better than the original.

Enjoy your uniqueness. Your originality. Be the best you, you can be.


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With that in mind, I changed my resolution from the old losing weight and getting back in shape to maintaining my health. Instead of becoming a slave to the scale and counting calories, I’m exercising to stay healthy. I may change a few of my eating habits too. I’ll eat more fruits and vegetables because they’re good for me.

My hope for the future is that our culture will change its focus. Instead of focusing on perfection. Let’s focus on health. Let’s focus on appreciating the wonderful miracle our body is and taking care of it.

Let’s focus on fighting Anorexia and Bulimia, on building women’s self-esteem instead of tearing it down.

Let’s start a War on Perfection. We can do this, you know. We’ve changed history before. We can definitely do it again.


Thanks for reading my post, leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you! Are you going to join me in the War on Perfection?



I'm a Young Adult Author with two new series, "The Starlight Chronicles" and "The Super Spies." The first one's a coming of age series and the second one's a mystery/thriller series. I'm also the mother of two boys who keep me hopping and they're my inspiration for everything. When I'm not shuttling my boys to school or a play date, I'm writing. When I'm not writing, I'm reading, hiking, or sometimes running. I love anything chocolate and scary movies too.

9 thoughts on “The War on Perfection

  1. “Let’s focus on appreciating the wonderful miracle our body is and taking care of it.” I love this! I noticed within the past year that I’ventured paid more attention to my mental and spiritual health, and less on my body. When all three are in balance that’s when I feel most beautiful.

    1. I agree Kelly! We need to focus on the whole our physical, spiritual, and mental health instead of what we look like we become our authentic selves and we become more beautiful. Because beauty is so much more than our physical appearance. Thanks for stopping by and reading my post. 🙂

  2. Wonderful post to start the new year with, Lisa! My sister-in-law’s resolution is to let people be who they’re supposed to be. I agree. The only person we can change is ourselves, and only we are responsible for our health. Hugs and Happy New Year, Lisa!

  3. Hmm… I just realized that, while this is just a theory, and may not be true, but you said that Oprah only bought stocks, not actually participated. Honestly, that may be a smart move, (it may not have happened either) but… Hmm…
    Great post! 🙂

  4. Oh my gosh, you’re right – we are on the same exact page! And you brought up a lot of the same things I did in my article, which tells me I’m not just being cynical.

    “No one in the world looks exactly like us. So no one can be more beautiful than us.”

    ^ You hit the nail right on the head.

    Yes, let’s start a war on perfection! I’m in! 😀

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