Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you! It has been a while since I’ve posted on my blog. Sorry about that, but I’ve been busy with surgery, vacations, and the kidlets! I’ve also had trouble finding a topic. It seems that I’ve written either a guest post or a post for my own blog on just about everything. 🙂 (I know that’s not true, but it feels that way.)
Then it hit me. I could write about what cancer has taught me. I know. Another post about cancer, but it’s a good one. I promise. (Insert sincere smile here.) When I was younger and working in the competitive environment of insurance sales and something or someone would bother me. I used to ask myself this question. “If I found out I had cancer, would this particular incident upset me?” Surprisingly, the answer was always. “No.” In that instance, I would put the episode behind me and focus on what I needed to accomplish for that day. I tried hard not to wallow in negative emotions. Although, sometimes I did. 🙂 I am a work in progress, after all.
It’s quite ironic I was diagnosed twenty years later with cancer. Does that make me psychic? 😉
Anyway, it’s funny what cancer teaches you. That’s right. There’s a positive side to having cancer. It wakes you up. It gives you clarity. For example, I struggled with being a stay at home mom. Working has always given me a sense of accomplishment and self-worth. For moms who work hard for those teachable moments with their kids while battling the mountain of laundry that seems to come with them, there’s no crowd cheering you on. There’s no award at the end of the day. There’s no real recognition from your peers, which means the sense of accomplishment gets a bit muddled sometimes. Especially when you’re trying to teach your child patience and they choose to scream their little heads off instead of learning it. 🙂 Cancer has taught me that I don’t need any special recognition from my peers. I just need and appreciate the bond I have with my kids.
Cancer has opened my eyes to the little things in everyday life that I may not have appreciated fully or may have even take for granted. Things I would have missed if I had been working full time. For example, those little conversations I have with my boys at odd hours of the day. Are transformers fiction or non-fiction? Is Texas bigger than Michigan? Is a Tyrannosaurus Rex bigger than our house?
Another example is a hug. Something as simple as a hug can have a huge impact on someone’s day. When I drop my boys off to school, I hug them and tell them I love them. In fact, I do this every time I leave the house and they don’t come with me. I’ve practiced this ever since they were babies. I know this sounds weird or even a little fatalistic, but I always thought, “What if I get in a car accident on the way home?” I want my boys’ last memory of me to be a hug and my last words to be “I love you.” Surviving cancer has taught me that I’m on the right track. Now, I hug more often and tell my boys I’m proud of them and that I’m glad they’re in my life. I believe kids need to hear that sometimes.
I always tried to live my life as if each day was my last, so it would be a worthwhile day. I practiced this as much as I could, but now after cancer I’m even better at it. Now, I don’t oscillate between the two pillars of I should be working and I should be home with the kids. I know where I’m supposed to be.
Thanks for stopping by my blog today. Please leave a comment or ask a question! I’d love to hear from you!
15 thoughts on “What Cancer has Taught Me”
Great post, Lisa! Thanks so much for sharing!
Thanks for stopping by Tanya! I hope all is well with you!
Well said, my friend! As you know, me and my family have just gone through the brutal lessons of cancer, and we’ve learned so much about not taking life and health for granted. Give your kids an extra hug for me! Love your attitude and the joy you bring into this world! Big hugs to you!
Oh Sharon, you’re so sweet! I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope your wonderful memories will sustain you when you think about your brother. 🙂 Big hugs right back to you, my friend!
Good to see you back!!! I think it was a great post on a topic that so many can relate to… I’ve lost a number of people close to me through the big C, and it has made me reevaluate my perspective on so many things… Lots of good health and happiness to you!
I’m glad to be back Suzie! Thanks so much for stopping by and your well wishes! They are greatly appreciated!
I wish you all the best and you’ll be in y prayers.I have personally learned from serious and chronic illness is that no one, no one truly understands what you go through…and you have to learn your own rythmn…of what is important, of what you feel you can handle,of what you feel needs to be done and what you do and do not need to face.
You sound like you have he best possible attitude and I applaud you! God bless!
Thanks for stopping by Tonette! You’ll be in my prayers as well. I’m sorry to hear about your chronic illness and I hope you find your own rhythm and road to recovery! God Bless you as well!
Thank you for sharing about cancer today. My mother was diagnosed with cancer in 2009. She is great now! She turned 85 in March. I think about you often and pray you continue on your road to a healthy life with your family.
Thanks Sara! I appreciate your kind words. I’m glad your mother is doing so well! It gives me hope! Thanks for stopping by and sharing! 🙂
Thank you for sharing, Lisa. It is scary how often i hear people nowadays having cancer… and im with you regarding the hugs. In fact im pleased my girls are happy to hug at any time of the day.
Thanks for stopping by, Iris. Yes, cancer is a scary thing and it seems to be on the rise. Hopefully, they’ll find a cure soon. I’m glad to hear your girls like to hug. I think they’re so important and with our digital age, personal contact is more important than ever. 🙂
Well said. Sadly (?), you learned it through the trials of cancer, but at least you came out on top. Super wise, super spy, super mom – What’s next? 🙂
Oh Eric, thanks for stopping by! I appreciate your kind words. You’re asking what’s next and I happy to say I’m writing again. This one’s another mystery and I’m excited about it. 🙂 I’ll keep you posted on what’s happening with the story!