Hello Everyone! I hope you enjoyed Laurie Cameron’s post last week! I’m back this week discussing another issue that faces our young people of today. And the topic that’s on my mind is a serious one.
As I’m sure you all know Jerry Sandusky was found Guilty on forty five of the forty eight counts of sexual abuse that he was charged with. This didn’t surprise me at all. The man is a predator and he’s the worse kind because he appears to be such a nice guy.
As I pondered this case, I started thinking about the victims. How did they get involved with their abuser? How does this start?
As I researched this horrendous event I noticed that these kids are groomed by their abuser long before the abuse happens. The kids are given special attention and gifts from the abuser. He builds a rapport with the child and breaks down his or her boundaries. This is the reason the abuse continues over a number of years, because the victim is so confused about what is happening. The abuser is so nice.
I also noticed that the abuser targeted children that were in less than ideal circumstances. Look at the kids Sandusky abused. They came from the charity he founded called “The Second Mile”, a charity for underprivileged and at risk youths. These kids didn’t have parents or didn’t have a lot of parental involvement.
I realized that was the key right there, parental involvement. Abusers will not target children who have good relationships with their parents, because they don’t want to get caught.
So parents, get involved with your kids. Go to their sporting events and get to know their coach. Hang out with them once in a while. Find out who they’re hanging out with when you’re not there. And if you see an adult being overly attentive to your child and buying him/her gifts, you should be on high alert. This is a huge red flag and the relationship should be nipped in the bud, or at the very least supervised. Let’s stop this kind of abuse before it starts.
Sadly, even when parents are involved with their children abuse still happens. So here are some warning signs to look out for that show your child may have been or is being abused.
- Inappropriate sexual behavior
- Excessive Masturbation
- Asking questions about specific sex acts
- Age in-appropriate sex play with friends, siblings, pets, or toys may indicate abuse has occurred.
- Thinking that the body is dirty or bad
- Sexual nightmares where the child wakes up screaming or sweating
- Urinary Tract or Yeast Infections
- The child starts wetting the bed
- Loss of bowel or bladder control
- Eating may become difficult; the child may gag or complain about painful swallowing.
- Difficulty Urinating or Deficating
- Bloody Urine or Stool
For more detailed information about these signs click the link below:
Abuse is a serious problem. If you suspect your child has been abused please seek professional help.
I want to thank Livestrong.com for some of the information provided in this post.
I also wanted to let everyone know, that there won’t be a blog post next Thursday as I won’t have internet access next week (Scheduled maintenance) but I’ll be back the week after that. J