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Distracted Driving

Hello everyone! I hope all is well with you!

Today I’m discussing the issue of distracted driving. It seems that this has become a major problem especially for the younger crowd. J You know who you are!  Read on and check out some pretty scary statistics.

Distracted drivers cause about 6,000 deaths and a half a million injuries every year. Now, for the teenager, that means texting or talking on a cell phone while driving.

Did you know that while young drivers are texting, they spend 10% of their time outside the driving lane that they’re supposed to be in? Pretty scary!

Did you know that talking on a cell phone while driving could make a younger driver’s reaction time as slow as that of a seventy-year-old?

Did you know that answering a text takes away your attention for about five seconds? That’s enough time to travel the length of a football field. Another scary thought!

It’s clear that both talking on the phone and texting behind the wheel lead to distracted driving.  Distracted driving is the leading cause of car accidents.

According to the Transportation Safety Group at the National Safety Council, distracted drivers account for 80% of car crashes. 80%! They also found that teenagers and Generation Y (ages 18-30) are more likely to send text messages while driving.

These statistics are frightening! How can we change some of these numbers?

Experts don’t agree on what measures should be taken to put a stop to unsafe driving practices. 43% support technology that automatically disables phones when the car is started. 42% want tougher laws against cell phone use, and 41% think that staying off the phone is a driver’s responsibility.  What do you think? Leave a comment and remember don’t text and drive, the life you save might be your own. J

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Another thought on the movie “Bully”

Hello again! I was thinking about the movie this morning as my two kids were trying to drag me out of bed, and my thoughts turned to the bullies themselves. No where in the movie did it show any consequences for the bullies. It left me wondering, are there consquences, and if not how come?

I believe there should be. Kids should be kicked out of school for harrassment. Victims should be able to take legal action against these bullies. They should be able to get restraining orders. I’m really surprised that the lawyers haven’t jumped on this bandwagon and sued the parents of bullies.

How about the schools that turn a blind eye to this stuff? I think they should be prosecuted too. I bet a lawsuit would get everyone’s attention, and then it would be taken seriously. Isn’t that sad? That it takes the fear of a  lawsuit to get any action out of adminstrators. Just some thoughts! Let me know what you think! 🙂

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Another thought on the movie “Bully”

Hello again! I was thinking about the movie this morning as my two kids were trying to drag me out of bed, and my thoughts turned to the bullies themselves. No where in the movie did it show any consequences for the bullies. It left me wondering, are there consquences, and if not how come?

I believe there should be. Kids should be kicked out of school for harrassment. Victims should be able to take legal action against these bullies. They should be able to get restraining orders. I’m really surprised that the lawyers haven’t jumped on this bandwagon and sued the parents of bullies.

How about the schools that turn a blind eye to this stuff? I think they should be prosecuted too. I bet a lawsuit would get everyone’s attention, and then it would be taken seriously. Isn’t that sad? That it takes the fear of a  lawsuit to get any action out of adminstrators. Just some thoughts! Let me know what you think! 🙂

 

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Another thought on the movie “Bully”

Hello again! I was thinking about the movie this morning as my two kids were trying to drag me out of bed, and my thoughts turned to the bullies themselves. No where in the movie did it show any consequences for the bullies. It left me wondering, are there consquences, and if not how come?

I believe there should be. Kids should be kicked out of school for harrassment. Victims should be able to take legal action against these bullies. They should be able to get restraining orders. I’m really surprised that the lawyers haven’t jumped on this bandwagon and sued the parents of bullies.

How about the schools that turn a blind eye to this stuff? I think they should be prosecuted too. I bet a lawsuit would get everyone’s attention, and then it would be taken seriously. Isn’t that sad? That it takes the fear of a  lawsuit to get any action out of adminstrators. Just some thoughts! Let me know what you think! 🙂

 

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The movie “Bully”

I just got back from the movie Bully, and I must say it was different than what I expected. I walked into the theater believing I was going to see a story about a young boy who was bullied, but stood up for himself and won out in the end. That’s not what happened, it was real life and it was heartbreaking.

I won’t give you the details, because I don’t want to spoil the movie for you. I encourage you to see it, especially if you’re a parent.

Bullying is a REAL PROBLEM. Kids are committing suicide because of it. The kids who are being bullied need to tell their parents. They need to speak up. They need to speak up before they hurt themselves or someone else. Because it can happen both ways, the victim will retaliate and either hurt themselves or the bullies. Think about what happened at Columbine. That event was a direct result of bullying.

I thought of my two little boys as I watched this movie, and I’m so grateful that the public school they attend has taken a stand against bullying. They don’t even let them use the word hate in the classroom. I love it. More schools need to do this, because this is where most of the bullying takes place, in the hall, on the bus, and in the bathrooms.

School administrators need to watch this movie, because some of them were caught on tape turning a blind eye. Attitudes like that leave the victim feeling powerless.

One thing that I did get out of the movie was that if the victim stands up for himself or herself early in the bullying process, it usually stops. We need to teach our kids to stand up for themselves. I’m definitely going to teach my kids that and I’m going to enroll them in self defense classes. 🙂

I’m going to teach them that they don’t have to be victims.

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Bullying

Hello again! I hope all of you are well and I hope you got some useful information out of my last couple of posts.That way  maybe you can help someone who’s dealing with the issues that we’ve been discussing.

Today I want to address the issue of Bullying. Suicide is the third leading cause of death for teenagers between the ages of fifteen to twenty four. To me, this is heartbreaking news. Did you know that one of the contributing factors in teen suicide is victimization from bullying?

What is bullying?

According to Wikipedia, bullying is a form of aggressive behavior manifested by the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when the behavior is habitual and involves an imbalance of power.

Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse emotional, verbal, and physical. It usually starts out as verbal abuse, and if it’s not stopped in time it escalates to physical abuse.

Who are the bullies?

Again, according to Wikipedia, research indicates that people with a strong need to control or dominate tend to be bullies. Further studies indicate that envy and resentment may be motives for bullying.

While some bullies are arrogant and narcissistic, others use bullying as a tool to conceal shame or anxiety. By demeaning others, they feel empowered by their dominance.

Who are the victims?

People who react to stressful situations by perceiving themselves as victims tend to be the best targets for bullying.  These people give the response the bully is looking for, submission. However, if the target responds with a clear attitude of self confidence that somehow demonstrates that the bully’s attempt at control is futile, then the bullying will quickly diminish or end all together.

There is another factor to bullying that is intriguing. Despite the large number of individuals who do not agree with the bully’s tactics very few will intervene on behalf of the victim.

In 85% of bullying incidents, bystanders are involved in teasing the victim or egging on the bully. This gives the bully permission to continue behaving badly and may actually increase the behavior.

The reason the bystanders behave this way is because they want to avoid becoming a victim themselves.

Sadly, all it would take is one or two people standing up for the victim to stop the bullying behavior.

What can a victim do?

I found some excellent advice from the link below.

http://library.thinkquest.org/07aug/00117/victimscando.html

They stress the HA HA SO method

H  Ask for help from friends, teachers, parents, or other adults.

A  Assert yourself. The best way to do this is by using I statements.  For example:  “I feel _____ when you _______.”

H  Humor. The bully wants to upset you. So, instead of getting mad use humor to diffuse the situation.  Be ready with a joke.

A  Avoid. Stay away from the bully as much as possible

S  Self talk.  If you are being bullied, think of good things about yourself even if the bully is picking on you.

O  Own it. Sometimes what the bully says might be true, so you can own the comment.  For example, if a bully is making fun of you because you wear glasses you can say “All the better to see you with.”  You can’t deny you wear glasses, but you don’t have to be ashamed of it either.

Of course, these techniques might not work all the time, nothing is foolproof, but to learn more go to:

http://library.thinkquest.org/07aug/00117/victimscando.html

I hope you found this information helpful! Please leave a comment or ask a question! If you’d like me to discuss a certain topic just let me know! J Thanks everyone for stopping by! J

Just a side note, I’m planning on going to see the movie BULLY. I was hoping to see it before this post, but it’s not playing in my area yet. Hopefully, by this weekend! I’ll let you know what I think! J